Have you ever noticed that most of the peer groups have people who are in similar status or similar success levels in a particular way?
Or else have you ever wondered in almost all the time why people who are in similar social status or people who are well succeeded in their particular fields attract people who are in similar status and why they don’t have anyone less than them?
The answer to this question is one of the major factors that highly impact one’s success or failure.
Several studies proved that the people who surrounds us can profoundly impact us. One of them suggests that you are more likely to gain weight if your best friend has gained weight, even if your best friend lives in another city. Another study proves that our happiness is often directly related to our colleagues and friends. Nevertheless, another study shows that our behaviour is heavily influenced by our friends.
These are the evidence that proved the fact that we need to be more vigilant when we choose our peer groups or our circle.
“You’re the average of the five people you spend most of your time with”. Jim Rohn
How does our peer group influence our success?
Peer influence and peer pressure are most conversational phrases, especially among teenagers. Peer pressure and influence can be positive as well as negative. A peer group is a powerful force for improvement, change and success.
“The quality of a person’s life is most often a direct reflection of the expectations of their peer group.” – Tony Robbins
Think about your peer group. What are you talking about whenever you are having any discussion? Does your peer group challenge you to be a better version of yourself? Do their characteristics and presence in your life motivate you to be successful? Or at least have you learnt something important from your conversations with them?
Answers to these questions will make you realise that how important the people surrounding you are for your success or growth.
If your closest friends always talk about becoming successful or new investment opportunities or anything that enhances your knowledge, eventually it will encourage you to become one of them. As human beings, it’s natural that we always like to compare ourselves with others and wants to be unrivalled and distinctive. Deep inside we try to be in the spotlight even though most of us won’t show it off. Just because of that, we tend to make our status, our knowledge and ourselves to match our peers to win this healthy competition among our circle, which is a good thing because it would develop our intellect.
On the other hand, think about the group that does the opposite of this. They Don’t challenge one another and always complain about something or someone. Or else they give excuses for everything rather than finding solutions and going forward. Do you think the influence of these kinds of people will add any value to your life?
If you have a desire to become successful, it’s highly important to be surrounded by people who have alike desires and people who can motivate you.
Tim Sanders, the former director of Yahoo! Says “Your Network Is Your Net Worth”
In your journey, it’s ok to lose someone who drags you down or make you demotivated deliberately.
What we need to focus on when we find our peer group
- Having perpetual positive vibes in ideas, opinions and actions within the group is essential. That is the key to being attracted to the group.
- Being around people who are working hard towards tough goals, taking risks to get ahead, and who have a successful vision or at least trying to reach it can be very helpful.
- In a good peer group, people are supportive, offer ideas and lead by example. Nevertheless, compliments and motivations are some significant qualities too.
- If the people who are in your circle is goal-oriented, it could benefit you to achieve your goals.
“Associate with positive, focused people who you can learn from and who will not drain your valuable energy with uninspiring attitudes. By developing relationships with those committed to constant improvement and the pursuit of the best that life has to offer, you will have plenty of company on your path to the top of whatever mountain you seek to climb.” – Robin Sharma