Maybe you all have experienced the feeling of starting over. We get to start over on something at least one or two times in our lifetime.
Let me ask one thing…. What is the first thought that came up to your mind once you realise that you have to start over your life?
The most common answer is how can I start again from squire one. Is there any worse feeling than going back to square one?
Why am I so scared of starting over life?
There are few reasons that cause this…
Fear of trying new things
This is the most significant reason for being afraid to start over. The fear of trying something new is called neophobia, especially if the fear is irrational or persistent. Most people experience neophobia more or less in different circumstances.
Fear Of Changes
Humans are creatures of habits and sometimes we hesitate to accept changes. However, change is the only constant thing in the world and if you need to survive with great success, you have to accept them and adopt them.
Find out more about How To Activate The Power Of Changes In Life from here.
There is a saying that age is just a number unless you are cheese or wine. Some people are so into their age and once they passed some significant age, they think that they are too old for starting over their life or try new things and it’s time to be retired. But do you know most of the countries doesn’t even ask the question of how old are you in most of their interviews?
Here I’m talking about the norm that people have made and followed for years without any logical rationale. As an example, there is this concept that women should get married within their 20s and have kids. Some are willing to follow these kinds of norms. But there are plenty of women out there who wants to experience their lives in different ways rather than getting married and having children.
Apart from these most significant reasons, there are some unique reasons which are authentic to individuals such as financial situations, family influences.
Whatever the reasons are if you think starting over is the only and best solution you have, like it or not you have to do it in order to pursue your dreams.
Find out more about how to start over your life at any age from here.
Let’s see how to Overcome the fear of starting over
The first thing that needs to do is believing in yourself, your capabilities and your strengths. Otherwise, it could be harder for you to continue this journey. Starting over life is not that simple and you have to learn how to trust your intuition too.
The best way of doing this is, having some awareness of yourself. You can list down all the capabilities and weaknesses that are related to your journey of starting over. In this way, it will be easier for you to identify and make a plan to develop the areas that need to be improved as well as build up your self-esteem.
Having a strong belief in yourself is a huge impact on the continuity of your journey. It’s like the strong foundation of a huge building.
Get rid of self-limiting beliefs
Self-limiting beliefs are one of the greatest enemies in our lives. How many good things that you have deliberately missed just because of your self-limiting beliefs? Thinking you as too old to start over your life is one of them. Therefore, it’s important to identify such beliefs that hold you back. Once you identify them try to think logically about the truth or the reality behind those beliefs. That will help you to eliminate them and see the world from a new perspective.
Don’t attach too much to other’s opinions
Anyone can express their personal opinion on anything. But, it’s our duty to decide what to believe and what to discard. If someone says now you don’t have time to start your life again, you shouldn’t accept that at all. Make decisions based on your own research and own opinions. It’s fine if you need to get advice from someone who is well qualified. Otherwise, you have to keep in mind that this is your personal decision and you are the only one who is responsible for that. Therefore, you need to be careful when listening to others’ opinions.
Find out more about how not to think about others opinions and make your own choices from here.
Do proper research
Having a good understanding of your new life is essential. You must be well aware of every step that you are going to put in order to start over life. Let’s say you are going to shift to another place and build up life from scratch. So, before shifting to that place you need to do good research on everything such as what kind of place is it, what are the living expenses, how the job market is out there for a job or if you are going to start a new business, you need to research on that too.
List down all the things you need to gather information and make a report. You need to include every obstacle that you might have to face too. Then it’s easier to come up with solutions.
Make a plan
You can use all the information that you have gathered in the earlier steps and make a master plan. Set small goals and give time durations to achieve them. This step is not different from setting life goals. Your plan does not include just the things after starting your journey but includes every step that needs to make yourself prepared for the journey.
Let’s take the same example that we discussed earlier. If you are planning to move to another place, you don’t do it tomorrow or next week. Therefore, you have some reasonable time to be prepared. You can save some money while doing research about new opportunities you can have once moved there. Or else you can practice new skills or new habits.
Starting over life is like creating your own painting. You can add any colour or design as you like.
Starting over is never as frightening as the anticipation of starting over is. What mostly matter is, you deserve a life full of opportunities and happiness. If you have to start over life to live the fullest, being afraid is only making you stuck with the current life. When you have a pure intention and good vision, you don’t have to be afraid at all to start over life.